Oh the royal wedding... Such a fairytale, don't you just love it?
But why are we supposed to have it all figured out by 30? Last year I felt that the pression was on, I felt I should settle, I should have a decorated home and I should have plans for kids. Although I do want all of the above, I still have a lot to learn about myself - and there was no party, no contract and no piece of furniture that could ever fulfill me. So despite all expectations I decided to take a detour in my life and in my career and I made that my top priority.
I have already done the Vegas wedding thing at age 25 and thought it was it! It seemed beautiful in theory: "I was marrying this guy I felt in love with the very first night I kissed him, and he moved to another country for me". But it all turnout to be as dramatic like as a mexican soap opera, with manipulation, humiliation and infidelity. I could go on and on about what a bad guy he was but the truth is that we were both too immature trying to play house together.
Just emphasizing: this is not my actual wedding picture, decided to keep it private - but you get the idea hu?
I can't describe how happy I was the day I got divorced - maybe that is the sort of happiness most people feel when they get married - the feeling that you made the right choice! And one day... I want to write a book about all this - not the divorce itself neither they guy - but a book about the process of being broken into pieces and finding strength to pick myself up - such a delicate subject that I still haven't had the nerve to read the journal I kept from that time...
Wow it is quite intimidating to write personal things like this... but after all this sharing, if I were planning a wedding and if budget wasn't an issue... this Marchesa gown would be it...
ethereal & dramatic
illusion tulle necklines
embroidered vines that climbed up and around arms and bust lines
ultra-full, cloud-like tulle skirt
A girl can dream...
Thank you for sharing your personal story. You are truly a strong woman for walking out of an abusive relationship. Many women don't.
ReplyDeleteI agree with what you said about how we are supposed to create the life we want and not just what looks good on paper. Sometimes, the pressure from family, friends and society are too much to handle and some people just succumbed themselves to those pressures.
I hope you are blessed with abundance of joy and happiness with your future husband!
Have a wonderful weekend!
Jessie
You have a wonderful attitude-so many people want everything right away and it doesn't turn out as pictured! It is great you are taking your time and not letting yourself feel pressure-as this is my last year before 30 I can relate to the pressure and the list of things you thought or wanted to accomplish before then, and I am just trying to let that go! Thanks for your openness and honesty!
ReplyDeleteP.S. That dress is just gorgeous-I'm obsessed with Marchesa!
That is great that you are taking the time to get this just the way you want them and to create a life that works for YOU. We should all do that. And that wedding gown is fabulous...truly dreamy.
ReplyDeleteYou're very brave and it's wonderful to see you haven't given up hope and you've taken the positive out of a bad experience and moving forward for the better!
ReplyDeleteThat takes a strong person!
Keep shining!
Much love, Bailey from Vanilla Blonde
Thank you for sharing your story. It's so very personal and you are such a brave woman. I'm glad to see that you're still such a positive person. Only good things will come to you, my friend.
ReplyDeleteHave a wonderful weekend! xoxo
I love your choice in the Marchesa gown...just dreamy! And bravo to you for being honest about your feelings and your uncertainty..life is not a recipe card with a perfect list of ingredients and directions of how it all goes down. I so wish it was at times but we all know.....you put the right things in the mix, and well it doesn't always come out as we plan...does it? NO! And then sometimes it comes out better which is great! Ditto with timing..everyones timetable is different..I got married very young..my sister who was the one who always said she wanted to get married young and have kids young was the one who got married 8 years later than I did and had the kids later...who would have guessed? It all works itself out. You just have to let things happen...we cannot force these thins to happen. You are so smart to not push this.....you will know, you really will when the time is right. And that Marchesa dress will be waiting!
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ReplyDeleteador o vestido! é lindoooooooo!
pena que só voltarei a casar na próxima vida!
deve ser lindo ter um casamento como o de kate e william!
love the photos!
happy weeekend Vá,
Rosa
It sounds like you have a quite a story to tell! Thanks for sharing! You are strong and beautiful woman and well done for following your heart girl! Keep being who you are and keep inspiring us! And I love that dress too. So elegant!
ReplyDeleteHope you have a wonderful weekend! hugs anastasia
xo
that dress is BEAUTIFUL!!!
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Hello! First time visiting your blog and it's so dreamy and pretty!! The decorating tips from the previous posts, I'll definitely keep in mind. About your story, you are very strong to share it with other people but there is definitely a reason why things happen and at the end you'll find the perfect person :)
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Fabulous! The dress looks amazing! Enjoy the gorgeous weekend, Kellie xx
ReplyDeleteWell, next time you're in LA, we'll go to Paradise Cove in bikini and caftans:) Thank you very much for visiting my blog and for your sweet comment:)
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Annabelle
http://vivaluxury.blogspot.com
Beautiful!
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It is so difficult to be open about things which are so personal especially when life does not go to plan. It is inspiring to see your positive outlook and I am sure many good things will come your way. Laduree is one of my loves! Enjoy the rest of your weekend. & never stop dreaming!! hugs Ax
ReplyDeleteI want all that and I'm only 21. We already have a car, a rented apartment, we're both studying and dreaming of kids. But I also figured out that I'm not in a hurry. I want to finish my interior designer bachelor degree and see where the world takes me. I'm going to work hard and become the best I can be and whenever children and a perfectly decorated home fits into all that, I'll get it. But now I've just got to focus. Thank you so much for sharing! xxx -your newest follower!
ReplyDeleteoh my friend... this was so transparent and open. You are wise beyond your years... I just loved how you shared that you were broken and mended back together. Stonger, more full of life and beauty. and Truth. AND... i want to read that book when you write it!!! I think it will be full of grace and beauty... just as you are friend. Thank you for sharing with us your past relationship and the desire to BE... not to BE what others want or what you "should" be. For what you should be... you ARE. Thank you for making a button for me on your blog!! it is perfect. i am soooo flattered my friend. And thankful. I hope you enjoyed this beautiful weekend.
ReplyDeleteHow cute is that cake-top :). Really really cute.
ReplyDeleteIf I may say I totally agree with your resolution - it's your life and it is YOU who should be happy! And you deserve to have a fairytale wedding even in the age of 50 if you would want it that way. I invite you to see my post about searching the perfect wedding gown - many inspirations, maybe some will be perfect for you :) Kisses!
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I was at work on last friday morning, so I watched the replays of the royal wedding on tv just in the afternoon .. but I loved them !! It was all just a disney story :D !!!
ReplyDeleteWhen I started reading this post, I was thinking I can totally relate! Postponing a wedding seems like the story of my life. I felt like I had to have everything set by a certain age, then when that age came, I realized "what's the big deal about this age?" I realized there isn't a formula and whenever things get into place then they will.
ReplyDeleteIf you ever write a book, I would certainly read it! I am sure it would be inspiring to many people. I understand being scared to read stuff you wrote from the past. I don't have the nerve to revisit some things from my past too. So that is understandable.
And I love the banner you put on your blog! Thank you so much! That means a lot to me :)
And I am glad you have a Twitter!
Have a great Monday! XO
I hope that when you are ready to marry it will be as glamorous as you invision it to be! Happiness is in the heart anyway, everything else is just the cherry on top. Glad you are opening up to us, it is very scary, I teeter-totter back and forth with this myself on sharing personal things. But what's the point if we don't here and there no? Hope you have a great week doll! xo
ReplyDeleteNessa, q lindo...amei esse post....vc já é uma mulher maravilha...te amo, Ví
ReplyDeleteps-vestido MARAVILHOSO!!!
That Royal Wedding was amazing...can't get enough of it. Such lovely images you have today. Hugs
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for sharing you story and you will get married when you're ready! There's no rush. And I agree that gown is fabulous...I'm sure you would look stunning in that!
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Alexa
www.theshortandthesweetofit.com
That first cake topper picture is so pretty...
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I love your candidness, wish I could be more open like you! Thanks for sharing, I TOTALLY agree.. you can't rush or even plan a lot of the BIG things in life, they will happen if and when the time is right...just gotta enjoy each days as it comes, love that dress :)
ReplyDeletewow, that's so much to go through at such a young age.. it's wonderful that you seem to have learned so much and really grown from the experience. i think many people would not! it must have been hard, but i can imagine your relief on the day of the divorce.. how miserable to be tied to the wrong person!
ReplyDeletealso.. that dress is amazing. so amazing.
aaand... thanks for reminding me about Poladroid! i used to have it on my old computer, but my computer crashed and i lost everything and forgot about that program! yeah i totally wish instagram was available on our computers. it's so fun!